So I’m back…
Writing this blog has had me in a real two and eight , I’ve recived some shocking abuse and more importantly lost 2 great friends over the subject I write about in this blog but hey ho.. You all know me well enough by now to know I write from the heart and not always from the head!
When I started writing this blog I knew I was putting myself out there to be shot at , mainly because of the way I am and the way I write – honest to a fault…
It’s a bit like my Facebook and Twitter accounts , I put stuff on them that some people wouldn’t and I get some amazing feed back and sometimes some not so great feed back.. But I try to never winge or moan.. After all it’s my choice to put myself out there and you know what? I love a good debate , love to make people think..
I’m known for putting lots of quotes on my twitter account , it’s never to get reaction – it’s just to make people stop and think.. Hopefully in the same way those quotes made me stop for half a second and think..
Now – on to the main reason I wrote this blog (other than to bore you all!)
Last week a video of a publicly adored horse surfaced on the internet and a debate started!!
Now I won’t go in to what horse it was or what was said as I’m sure you will all work it out for your selfs!! But I was asked on twitter my opinion , so I gave it..
My opinion that is – on that horse , on that video , on that night.. Nothing more , nothing less…
Well my god – little did I know what I’d done!
I got DM’s calling me a bitter old has been , even a wa*ker etc..
Quite a few of my followers took a right pop at me , most without tagging me in directly of course I’d like to add!!!
If you don’t like what I say why follow me?
Now I did not once ‘bash’ the rider like so many people did , because that is not and will never be my style – then a couple of my friends had ago at me about it all and if I’m honest that broke my heart a little and because of that I started over thinking what I’d written and let myself down by coming out fighting because I’d been in my eyes attacked by people I cared about and thought were my friends – when normally I’d have smiled and waved to everyone as I am allowed my opinion..
Was joining the debate my finest hour? Most probably not.. And I have now lost two great friends.. But I did at least stay true to myself..
One of my followers called me ‘the most opinionated old has been ever’
Well rather be called that than a ‘yellow bellied no body’ I guess!!
Its all done and dusted now , but I stand by the fact that you take on a horse loved by the public as much as that horse is and then parade it so publicly and you will come against people that don’t like you , it or what the horse is doing..
But you have to suck it up! Take the good press with the bad and move along..
Some people may forget just how loved by the public Frosty (Little Tiger) was , the sudden pressure I felt at the start at Badminton one year when a lovely couple of people came over and said they came to Badminton just to watch her warm up for the XC was massive! During that round I could hear people shouting her name at every fence and riders will tell you that you hardly hear anything whilst riding – that was the moment I released just how many people loved her , she made people believe anything was possible and that yes your little 14.2hh white pony might just get you to Badminton if you dream enough.. From that point on I always made sure I took time out to let people pat her and have photos taken with her etc as she wasn’t just mine and the owners wonder pony.. She was the publics wonder pony too!!
When we retired her the decision was made because of the things below and in that order..
1. Frosty did not deserve to be flogged round one more 4* because of our greed.
2. Her public wouldn’t want to see her at anything other than her very best.
3. We loved and owed her to much to ever let either of the above happen.
I wrote a post about her on the Horse & Hound forum after we retired her – google ‘Little Tiger retires by Phoebe Buckley , Horse and Hound’ I did when I was getting abuse a few days ago.. Choked me up , even nearly 4 years on..
I may just be a opinionated old has been but I will always be the has been that can have a opinion because she’s been there and done it and got the t-shirt on the one pony everyone wanted to have a spin on but didn’t get the chance because I was the lucky devil who did..
On Christmas Eve I was given the amazing gift of a days hunting with a famous pack I’ve never hunted with from the people I work for.. Then I found Colin with what looked on first sight his leg nearly cut off , god knows what he did it on as our fields have nothing other than a water bucket in them and post and rail fencing round them.. As he limped in from the field and I started cleaning him up I could see it wasn’t as bad as I first thought and he was just being a bit soft!! Horses!!
Anyways today I rode him out and led Custard off him.. Mid way thou our ride Custard attacked Colin!! Not that Colin cared , he’s the big boss man of The Oaks you see , I pushed Custard off Colin and we carried on with our ride.. Me smiling away to myself..
I was smiling as my plan to make Custard think he is top dog is working , when Custard came he was shy , quite and had no bite about him and wasn’t the greatest race horse I would imange because all of what I’ve just listed..
Colin is the sort of horse that demands respect – he will honestly eye ball you so to stand up to Colin takes some guts , guts that Custard is slowly getting!!
When custard first came I gave him a 11hh pony as a companion , it took him 2 weeks to be brave enough to boss the pony!! He now has Donna the donkey as companion as she is tougher than the pony and will give Custard what for.. But he can still be top dog so to speak!!
The dream with Custard is pointing and the Aintree Foxhunters – Custard had ability as a racehorse he just didn’t show it that often , but as always with me it’s all about a dream and via hunting , team chasing and eventing where he can be the bees knees without being told he must jump and gallop faster I hope to give him the confidence to shine a little more pointing than he did as a race horse under rules.
Most people will think I’m mad and doubt it’ll ever happen but you know what? Where there doubt there’s hope and where there’s hope there’s a chance and where there’s a chance there’s a will and I have will I just got to get Custard to have that same will as me and we are sorted..
So as 2014 ends and I go in to 2015 I have to face the fact I’ve lost great people but gained some people even greater.. Have had dreams shattered but have had new and even more exciting dreams begin..
More than anything one way or another I’ve kept the butterflies alive because life is nothing without great people , dreams and most importantly butterflies..
Stay safe people..
But remember – if it doesn’t make you nervous or give you butterflies your doing it wrong..
Over and out..